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Anger is a natural human feeling. Healthy anger is an important energy that it is telling you to take a stand. Angry feelings can motivate you to organize a group to make changes.
Talking about anger as though it is an unhealthy disease is wrong and needs to be addressed.
- Anger is not aggression and violence.
- Excessive anger is harmful to your health, immune system, even your longevity.
- Unhealthy anger is not the same as healthy anger.
- Healthy anger is about keeping your reactions in proportion to the triggers.
- Unhealthy anger is going into a rage because you missed the subway, making it more difficult to react more strongly when something really bad happens. Use appropriate actions instead of just reacting.
- Healthy anger can be used as a warning that you need to address a problem or make some changes.
- Healthy anger is knowing how to let go of it as soon as you realize you may be having a problem.
- Rational positive thinking can remove you from your boxed-in anger. Learn to accept and forgive. Life and people are not perfect. Sometimes we can’t always get what we want.
- Life is unfair. Getting overly upset can just make matters worse.
- Understand that unhealthy beliefs turn into irrational fury.
- Teaching yourself to see situations from different angles can reveal opportunities that could otherwise be missed.
- Unhealthy anger can last a long time. Days and weeks turn into resentment that can last a lifetime.
- Unhealthy anger is when it happens daily, and escalates out of proportion to the trigger or situation.
- Unhealthy anger is slamming the phone down after a conversation.
- Unhealthy anger can get out of control bringing trouble, such as being expelled from school, fired from your job, and getting arrested. These are examples that can have harmful effects on your health, relationships and employment.
- Unhealthy anger is the result of using poor coping skills, like using foul language, threats or shouting, then settling down only by using drugs or alcohol.
The Research
Research studies show that letting anger take over your thoughts and actions every time you feel it, trains your anger to become stronger. Instead of becoming more angry take a time out and re-assess your options.
Gill Bloxham, 2013 Managing Anger with CBT for Dummies
This report is not a diagnosis. We hope this information can guide you to improving your life.
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