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Almost everyone gets angry sometimes, but statistics show that one out of five Americans – twenty percent – has an anger management problem. They allow their anger to completely dominate and take over, reducing the quality of their life. If you want to maintain control, no matter what life hurls at you, then you need to remember a few important rules.
Acceptance
The first rule in dealing with your anger is to admit and accept that you have an anger problem. Many people suppress their anger, causing them to become irritable, depressed and even ill. Suppressed anger can find an outlet indirectly through passive-aggressive behavior such as using insulting comments, sarcasm, sulking and ignoring. Repressed anger can eventually turn into resentment.
Why Are You Angry?
Anger usually comes about when our expectations are not met. Often because we set our expectations too high or because we feel entitled to a different result. We become frustrated because we feel we have less control over the situation than we should, and that directly affects our self-esteem.
People with a high level of self-esteem accept disappointment more easily than others because rational thinking allows them to have an active influence over their surroundings. They believe their positive actions produce a desired effect.
People with low self-esteem think they have less influence over their surroundings. They are more likely to become angry when a situation doesn’t meet their expectations. This is because their lack of influence is confirmed.
Decide to Change
It would be wise to see anger as a failure rather than as a motivating force. If you refuse to choose the destructive force of anger as the only option it forces you to think rationally to find alternative solutions to your problems. Therefore is is possible to redirect anger into positive outcomes.
Learn to Communicate
Angry people don’t communicate intelligently. In fact, violent anger is a complete breakdown in communication. Violent and angry people are generally very poor communicators and have lower self-esteem. They are often frustrated at their own inability and the responses of others around them. Learn to communicate your views and opinions in a constructive manner and keep your anger under control.
Ask yourself why you would become angry about something that can be fixed. Then ask yourself why you would become angry about something that can’t be fixed.
This report is not a diagnosis. We hope this information can guide you toward improving your life.
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