Through mindfulness we can learn to intentionally use the power of our mind to help us channel and focus even the most intense and negative feelings into constructive and positive action. Awareness is the way. The fundamental philosophical principle that the Buddha taught more than 2,500 years ago is thatContinue Reading
Resentment is yesterday’s cold, hard anger that nags at us. Over time it eats away at us. Maybe we are still fuming over a long forgotten comment someone made, or you feel cheated that someone else got some award you felt should have been yours. Did someone receive credit forContinue Reading
Unlike anger, which we are born with, forgiveness must be learned. Forgiveness is a process that isn’t easy for everyone. We first learn forgiveness from observing our parents and how they showed it towards each other. Not So Easy Even though we learn to forgive, making the decision to forgiveContinue Reading
Self-blaming is simply finding fault with yourself. To hold yourself responsible for your actions when bad things happen to you. Ordinarily this would be an admirable quality. Knowing that you did something wrong is a useful lesson learned, so as not to repeat the same mistake. Guilt and self-blaming keepsContinue Reading
If your desire to learn about meditation brought you to Self-Psych.com or you feel that something is wrong in your life and you seek change, you have taken a very significant step. You’re understanding that something about your life is out of balance. Busy Busy Your life, like most, isContinue Reading
Siddhartha Guatama, the Buddha, taught in India over 2,500 years ago that suffering is caused by desire, and can be alleviated by releasing that desire. The same could be said of anger. When a person is angry, sulking, steaming or otherwise filled with negative emotions and ill will or aversionContinue Reading
Have you ever noticed that you get angry in certain kinds of situations? You could call these your “hot spots”. Knowing your hot spots can help you prepare a handy response to use when you find yourself in one of these situations. It is also possible that there is aContinue Reading
Have you ever been told that anger has become a problem for you? Perhaps your significant other has mentioned it. Or someone at work or school brought up the subject. Have you been aware that the anger within you is often seen by others and has become a concern toContinue Reading
Our mood changes from day to day – even hour to hour. A period of happiness can quickly take a short-term dip, seemingly coming from out of the blue, and turn into a bad mood of sadness, anxiety, stress, unhappiness and irritability. We all suffer from short-term mood dips mostContinue Reading
Depression is the most studied disorder, because it affects so many people. As a result of thousands of studies, psychologists have been working to develop more effective ways to treat mood disorders. What characterizes depression is negativity. Depressed people are sensitive to negative happenings, expect negative outcomes, and more oftenContinue Reading